“You are an adult now Rohan. You need to learn that you are now responsible for all your actions – whether it be work, education or more importantly, your relationships”
This is what my dad told me on my 23rd birthday. I think he stressed on that last one because he knows that I am decently sorted at work. It struck a chord with me because it made me reflect on how I’ve been treating my relationships with people. I can be very immature at times with people. It’s ironical because till a few years back, I considered myself to be more mature than most of the people my age.
I want to highlight a few things that I do wrong. I can sometimes carelessly say things that hurt people without realizing that it hurt them badly. I can keep people hanging at times without realizing that my indecision is extremely painful for them. I can ditch plans at the last moment without realizing the disappointment it causes to my friends. I avoid confrontation at all costs and fail to acknowledge that this only causes the conflict to snowball into something much bigger than it is. I can get vengeful and get incredibly sarcastic and flippant. If I dont get what I want, I get very snappy and lash out at people who are only trying to help. Saving the best for last – I can be incredibly self centered at time, specially if I am tired and have just completed a 2hr commute after a 9hr workday!
Fear of hurting people.
Fear of being hurt.
That’s immaturity in relationships, distilled. I’m going to work on it this year and hopefully be an Adult 24 year old! If you recognize any of these in yourself, I will simply tell you this – relationships are fragile, even the ones you thought that are bullet proof and will last forever. They are your responsibilty.